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30Aug/09Off

Thou Shalt Schedule

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Our schedule is full. Our cups runneth over. Our plates are piled high. We are inundated. Dentist and doctor appointments, after school projects, assignments with long term deadlines, homework, baseball, swimming, basketball. Places to go, people to see, things to do. That snapshot to the left? That's our actual calendar, minus a much needed update now that the school year calendar is in. Much bigger, I'll give you, easier to read, but you get the gist.

For a long time, we've incorporated a scheduling system with the kidlets to help them organize their days, most importantly, their homework, using something that would help them visualize their time. We used to use blocks, but now have gone to using paper.

schedule

First they'll write down everything they have to do after school, estimating the amount of time it takes to do each thing (the columns to the left above). This includes each homework assignment, chores, bedtime routine and even dinner.

They'll total the estimated time and then move over a column and enter their start time and end time (bedtime) and come up with the total amount of time they have to do the things they've listed.

After they're done with those tasks, they'll use the "blocks." There are four for every hour, each block representing 15 minutes. In the example above, the bottom right are the blocks, each column representing an hour, therefore a total of five hours are available to them. The colors match up with the tasks they've already identified so it's easier to glance at it and know what they're "in for." In this example, the yellow-gray blocks represent free time. They were amazed to see that they were going to have almost two hours of free time, which was enough of a motivator to get cracking on the less desirable aspects of the schedule.

It may sound a bit anal retentive, but in truth, it's become a wonderful motivator. Without us having to harp on them, they're able to stay on task, get the job done quick and efficiently. They've learned that if the task isn't done right the first time, not only do they have to do it again, right; but they've learned that they've doubled up on the time it takes to complete the chore which means it takes away from free time.

We started doing this about the time they were starting fourth grade. As the system progresses to match their cognitive levels, we still have to work with them initially to make sure they're using the system routinely. They seem to like it and I can tell you we sure do! I especially like it because when my husband steps in to oversee their jobs (believe me, he's very much a hands-on dad, but in this instance, I'm more hands-on for this), it's easy for him to pick up and keep going, like he'll need to do in a few weeks when I'll be away for a few days.

Interested in this system for your kids? Leave a comment and I'll be happy to share!

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26Aug/09Off

Back-to-School Shopping – Part Two

I love shopping for school supplies. Hundreds of spiral notebooks, thousands of pens in every color imaginable. Gadgets for fastening, adhering, sealing, flying, pushing, pulling-- Maybe I should stop there.

Yay! School Supplies!

If you're responsible for hiring at somewhere like Office Depot or Staples, you'd be wise not to process my application, I'd go out of my head being surrounded by all these yummy things day in and day out! 

So when the kids are getting ready to go back to school, as much as I try to get them to give me very specific lists in an earnest attempt to curb my overwhelming need to take all those homeless items back with me, the kids don't quite get the importance of being specific. And whose to blame them? The lists they come home with from their teachers seem to grow to a ridiculous size whenever the budgets go wonky.You can probably imagine just how crazy the lists are now, given how strapped the school's resources are with the massive budget cuts.

This year my husband stepped in to save the day, offering to grab up what they needed provided they came up with a list. Did I happen to mention how they're not very good at that? Yeah, I think a bit of my adoration for the stuff has rubbed off on them, too. You'd have thought they were writing out their wish list for a birthday or Christmas by the time they were done!

I thought it was way too much and began comparing what was on their list to the list their teachers had handed out and what I knew we had on hand. It went something like this:

Stuff on
Their Lists

Stuff on Teachers' Lists

Stuff We
Have on Hand

A Glimpse of Mom vs. Son Conversation

Notebooks Journals/Notebooks and/or Loose Leaf Paper Notebooks, Loose Leaf Paper "Mom, I am not going to take that Tinkerbell notebook into class!"
Scientific Calculator Scientific Calculator Scientific Calculator "I haven't seen it since Christmas last year." -Z. Dude
Pencils - lots (Ry-guy) Pencils and/or pens Pencils, Pens, Crayons, Markers, Sharpies, pin to prick finger so you can write with your blood "You keep stealing our pencils, Mom."

Me: "I have straight pins if you prefer."

Graph paper Graph paper for later in the first quarter Rulers and lined paper for a fun, DIY project "You can not be serious." (If you're envisioning a roll of the eyes at the end of that, you've nailed it!)
Locker Buddy stuff Three scans later, nothing at all was said about locker "gear." Drawers full of fluffy pom-poms from a 2nd grade project, glue sticks, colored wooden popsicle sticks from a 4th grade science project, beads and string from some Christmas gift projects a couple of years ago, and much more. "I'll use my own good grade money you still haven't coughed up and buy my own."

Momzilla's response: "Negatory, rubber ducky, that 'good grade money' was lost when the bad messy room didn't become sparkling clean."

They came back with notebooks, mechanical pencils complete with extra 'lead' and erasers, and I believe I saw two bright yellow highlighters. It was just the silly string that kept me from permanently assigning the hubby to the task next time.

But I might reconsider. I got these:

Eight New Notebooks!

from their trip to the store.

Happy back-to-school supply shopping, y'all! 

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23Aug/09Off

Back-to-School Shopping – Part One

Early this morning the boys and I went back-to-school shopping.

When I was a kid, my parents figured out while they were still responsible for my care which included buying clothes for me, that back-to-school shopping should be done a week or two after school starts. The reason is simple. The clothes my mother and I thought were "cute" or "cool" or "fashionable" on the racks turned out to be quite the opposite among my peers and were quickly relegated to live a life of exile at the very back of my closet. Waiting a couple of weeks (they weren't terribly cruel, they did buy us one new outfit before the start of the school year) gave us the opportunity to check out our classmates, see what the fashions were, what we could get away with wearing on a fairly regular basis.

The R. Kelly Experiment - Stay in that closet

I'd do the same with my own kids, but they're boys. They don't care and there's only so much you can do with jeans and t-shirts. I suspect that'll change soon. It'll be all about the labels. Little do they know how adept I am at removing labels or tacking them onto a second-hand shirt picked up at a nice little thrift shop down the street.

Oh wait. They do know how to read. Ha, like they'll be reading their mother's blog.

But that doesn't mean I'm completely out of the mother-child bonding ceremonial rituals. You forget, I'm my mother's child. I learnt well.

A few years ago the kids were going to a school that raised their own vegetables and fruits. The meals where very healthy, prepared exquisitely and thus we happily forked over the money to let them buy lunches (and breakfasts too!). However, they're back to a school where it's a bunch of #10 cans, watered down syrupy fruits that haven't seen fresh since 1982, and packaged crap. So we've instituted a new routine. We go grocery shopping for a week of school days, each kid allotted the amount that they'd pay for school breakfast and lunch and any savings they could scrape out of it while still putting together healthy, filling meals goes towards extracurricular trips, retreats and so on.

It's a wonderful experience because the kids are able to apply math skills, develop a sense of nutrition and health, and actively contribute to the household finances while learning how to budget as well as trim expenses in an effort to save money for something else. Adding to this, we're now establishing a new bonus round. If you opt to take out the items a bit too high in sugar carbs and/or fat and replace it with something far more balanced (not that they can get away with Ho-Hos, Ding-Dongs, Twinkies or crap like that), three more bucks are added to whatever savings they had by the time we're done with the shopping trip.

bak2skool

See? Here's a kidlet weighing some bananas he opted to get over a box of Twix cookie snacks (that barely scraped by the 'healthy food item' list) and figuring out his grand total as he worked his way towards earning an added $3.00.

And just because you wanted to know, both boys saved over $8.00 and the banana man had swung the bonus money. Of course, they're using my lunch meat, bread, condiments and milk for the week, but that's okay, they're trying to save money to go on two fall church retreats. I'm hip to that. Down with that? Cool with it?

Yeah, you get my point.

So what do you do? Share, please!

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22Aug/09Off

Back In Town

Remember that song with lyrics that went "the boys are back in town"? Thin Lizzy sang it in the seventies. Well, that's the song that's been playing through my head the past few days, except I use "stupids" in place of "boys."

Yes, folks, school is back in session and that means the university students have rolled in, put up their beer pong tables, dragged out the kegs and cranked up the music. Around here, the firefighters call them stupids because, frankly, their behavior is just that. And those fine men and women in the turnouts should know because they're pulling the stupids out of the crumpled cars, the pools of vomit, down from the trees and out of the freezing cold river or the swimming holes.

You want to know why we didn't let the kids walk and then ride their bikes to school? Because they would have to go through college row. I can't tell you how many times I've been down that road and have had close calls as a still drunken stupid roars across the street towards campus or could be stone cold sober and still drove like, well, a stupid. I couldn't make it through the day knowing that a stupid could potentially flatten my kid out. 

Yesterday I was over at Target with the kids grabbing a couple "this-will-do-ya" items until we went out and officially shopped for back-to-school stuff.  I almost got mowed down by a hot blond chick driving a freaking SUV (watch the MAD TV skit below) like she was going for the gold cup in the Indie 500. Except it was right out front of Target with men, women and children moving about. 

And that reminds me of the Kathy Bates' line from Fried Green Tomatoes that goes: "Face it girls, I'm older and I have more insurance." Because had I been three steps closer and in the hubby's truck, I would have been doing something like this:

So hey stupi-- I mean students! Welcome to our fair town, now get the hell out! 

We'll file this under "things that piss me off."

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21Aug/09Off

Homeowners Beware

American Home Shield offers a warranty that homeowners are probably most familiar with when purchasing a home. It's a nice little bonus realtors like to throw in to sweeten the deal. But for those of us who renewed when the year's end rolled around, we know that the human body can only handle so much sweetness before it gets violently ill.

You might rationalize that the cost of service alone is well worth the policy. You may even look at the reduced coverage on large appliances and other big-money items is worth the annual fees even when the premiums are increased. But if you look closely and carefully, you'll start to notice that the restrictions have doubled, then tripled and even quadrupled. Got a leak on the exterior faucet? Too bad. Not covered. Air conditioning conked out? Tough luck, you didn't perform the recommended prevention maintenance as we recommend. Got a repair service provider out that is a lazy bum and claims the two dollar soldering job done on your thermostat will solve the problem and a week later, your furnace dies? Not their problem, they'll tell you. "We're just going off of what the service repair person reported, who is the authority in this matter."

I really wish I could tell you that I got these examples from places like Consumer Affairs, but no, these are actual examples after talking with family, friends and our own experiences when using their "service" since 1995. In the years, we've even see the contractors that have been sent out, change. Spend any time waiting for an AHS representative to answer your call while listening to their recorded message loop around, and you'll understand they've become, more or less, a monopoly. They use Cleanmasters, Servicemasters, and have an umbrella of other services that include Terminex (and that in and of itself is scary if you spend any time looking into them for pest control services, gives me the eebie jeebies just thinking about it) among others. I don't know about your neck of the woods, but these aren't the people I want anywhere near my home, let alone tromping around to fix and service this or that.

A few years ago, when our policy came up for renewal, we decided to let it expire. Shortly after I received a call from an AHS representative. I explained that the lump sum they required was no longer affordable and we weren't so sure we needed the since watered down services they still offered. He was a damned good salesman. By the end of the call, we renegotiated the terms and he had my credit card information along with an arrangement to bill me monthly for a more affordable amount, no added fees tacked on and, as he explained, able to be terminated any given month.

As you probably know, when things roll over to a credit card, you tend to forget about the charges. Until the card is about to expire, they send you a "friendly email" and then you're back to reconsidering - do we really need this service? When's the last time we even used it? Is this an expense we can cut when things are as tight as they are? Can we make a claim against our homeowners policy if something big happened and exceeded our hefty deductible? That was us and we came to the conclusion, let it ride.

A couple of months passed and -wham- in comes a letter from a collections agency. It says that on behalf of AHS, their client, they're reminding us we still owe AHS several hundred dollars. They were even nice enough to include their client's billing address and phone number. Of course, it wasn't toll free.

As a homeowner, you're probably well aware of the importance of protecting your credit history. It's almost as precious as a baby. I phoned the number provided, waited a painful seventy-seven minutes to their messages that repeated so much I heard them in my sleep for days after, and finally was connected to a representative. I politely explained the situation, got the typical run-around that went along the lines of still owing money up until the policy was set to expire, which according to their records wasn't until November. I knew my rights, I knew their own limitations, and I made it clear that once we rolled over into the monthly billed amount, that these supposed "life of the policy" rules were no longer effective. That's when the representative said I had to call to another department and they would make a final decision. I stood firm. No, I fulfilled my end of the bargain, I chose not to renew my credit card information, they had no legal grounds to come after me, they were to immediately cease and desist with their attempts to collect and that if they continued, if there were any bad reports made against my credit history, I would sue them to the full extent of the law.

The representative said she would share this with the other department and that they'd have to call me to confirm the cancellation, so on and so forth. Good luck, I told her. I won't be around to take the call, I was heading out of town in the morning and could make it just as difficult for them as they'd made it for me. Regardless, the demand still stood, they were, I repeated firmly and made her repeat back to me, to cease and desist. She said she understood and would "relay the information."

Dated a week after my phone call that took an entire ninety-two minutes of my time (billable at $100/hour for a 3-hour minimum), another letter was sent from the same collection agency. I was informed that the clock started ticking when I received the first correspondence and had a mere thirty days to respond to their communication. It seemed vague about anything further than that, but the intent was loud and clear. That's when I began digging into AHS online and found hundreds of complaints filed against the company for a wide variety of things including this type of tactical (or maybe, tactless) maneuver in attempting to collect on debts that they really don't have a right to do.

I followed the advice on many of those complaint boards, went straight to the Better Business Bureau (bbb.org) and filed a complaint according to their form driven website. Earlier today I received an email from the office that handles complaints about AHS and was told I would be hearing back from them soon.

A word to the wise, avoid American Home Shield. I can't suggest another warranty service that might be a better choice because I'm still dealing with this and haven't researched any, but given the headaches and the frustrations of dealing with this particular company, American Home Shield, which I've heard complaints have also come from many of the legitimate service companies AHS used to send out to service the policy, you're better off putting that money in a money market account and using that to make your repairs.

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